Couples therapy with EFT tapping
Stop the blame game. Be happy again or part ways amicably
Most common couple challenges
When do couples seek therapy?
On the brink of divorce
When nothing else works
Keep having the same argument
High time to find a solution
In the getting-to-know phase
Create the best conditions for a future together
What is done in couples therapy?
Let’s be real. By the time a couple looks for therapy, there is plenty of anger and hurt going on from both sides.
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The first goal of EFT tapping therapy for couples is to destress the partners separately.
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Once you are both at a calmer state, we will start looking at the conflict pattern of your relationship.
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This means you learn to accept and love yourself and your partner in a mature way. Or you might decide to part ways amicably.
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In short, stop the blame game, let’s find peace.
Relationship myth
“With the right person, there will be no conflict.”
The truth: Conflict is a given. Key indicator for being happy together in the long run is how you handle the difficult conversations.
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How it works
Step 1
Individual 20 min intro call for each partner – FREE
You tell me your side of the story. I give you a tapping demo to see how the method works.
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I will then assess if I can take you on. I only work with couples when both partners are invested in finding a solution.
Step 2
Initial consultation 90 mins
with both partners -- £200
Our first session is about defining the problem and how we are going to track progress.
For example, if the problem is constant arguments about money, we will write down how often you argue and what the worst part for each partner is.
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By the end of the session, you will get practical strategies to apply at the next fight.
Step 3
3 individual sessions for each partner 75 mins - £120 each
Time to dive in individual therapy. We will focus on releasing anger, hurt, guilt or resentment that you feel towards your partner. This is the point where people typically remember why they fell in love in the first place.
Step 4
Follow-up with both partners 90 mins - £180
After 3 individual sessions, we will have a session with both partners to assess progress. Not all relationships can be saved. Some people learn to accept and love their partner in a mature way and others decide to part ways amicably. What is key here is that the decision is a peaceful one.
All sessions are done over zoom
Example of how progress with couples therapy looks like
The Problem - The wife complains that the husband doesn’t care and doesn’t contribute. The agreement is she cooks lunch and he washes the dishes. Every time she sees unwashed dishes piling, she gets angry. The husband wants to enjoy his coffee before he cleans up. This might take a few hours
Before couples therapy
Wife: You still haven’t washed the dishes! You just never do your part.
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Husband: Why do you have to make such a big deal? I said I’ll do it after I finish my coffee.
After couples therapy
Wife: The dishes are still unwashed and that stresses me.
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Husband: Oh, I'm sorry. Do you mind if I take care of that after I finish my coffee?
Relationship myth 2
“If he/she simply changed, everything would be just fine.”
The truth: Nobody ever changed because somebody else asked them to. Let’s find out what your emotional needs really are and get you at a calmer state ASAP.
FAQs
Can couples therapy save the relationship?
Yes, but not necessarily. The goal of couples therapy with eft tapping is to get you both to a state of discussing issues calmly. We do that by releasing anger, hurt and guilt separately. This can lead to saving the relationship or an amicable (instead of a bitter) break-up. Once you have ther superpower to disagree calmly, you will know what the best way forward is.
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Is it ethical for a relationship therapist to see a couple separately?
EFT tapping is a somatic therapy and does not offer advice. When seeing each partner separately, I focus on destressing and strengthening you individually. This happens by tapping difficult emotions out of your body, not by talking about them. No information is passed on to the other partner because it is not necessary for the process.
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How long do couples usually do couples therapy for?
Couples therapy with me works in cycles of 3 individual sessions plus 1 couples session. After the first cycle is completed, my clients notice a tangible shift in their ability to discuss issues calmly. From that point, a couple is typically able to take amicable decisions. This includes: to commit to loving in a mature way by applying what they learnt, to continue therapy to strengthen the bond further or to part ways calmly.