Master Anger Management with EFT Tapping and Transform your Life

More than 10% of the people in the UK have difficulty controlling their anger, and over 28% say they are worried about how angry they can get. However, only 13% of anger-prone individuals have sought help for anger issues, according to the Mental Health Foundation.

If you are looking for ways to manage anger, eft tapping is an effective self-help tool that can relieve anger in seconds. Discover how to apply tapping on yourself, regain back and transform your life.

Common anger management strategies such as count to ten before you act, take a few deep breaths or remove yourself from the situation can be helpful when anger outbursts are occasional and within reason.

However, when anger has already led to aggression with serious consequences, such as getting violent or losing your job, more is needed.

Why am I getting angry over small things?

What most people don't know is that angry-prone individuals tend to experience disturbing events as threats. Let’s take the example of the boss criticizing a piece of work. Both an angry individual and an anxious individual are likely to jump to the "worst-case scenario".

The anxious one will be afraid of losing the job, while the angry-prone individual is more likely to think "My boss doesn't respect me at all!". Thinking in black-and-white terms of either winning or losing, the angry-prone person likely to think “I can't tolerate being a loser, so I'd better fight back."

How effective is CBT for anger issues?

Research shows that anger is a coping mechanism similar to anxiety. However, it’s not socially acceptable and typically involves blaming, rather than understanding. When people do seek help for anger management, they often do it out of obligation or shame.

The most common treatment is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). The individual learns to identify unhelpful or negative thought patterns and change their beliefs. The method asks the person to imagine incidents that would provoke anger, so that they can train to self-monitor and practice ways to overcome anger.

According to a research from Sciencedirect among adult males with anger issues who committed an offence against another person, object or event that caused the frustration, CBT-based anger management achieved a risk reduction of 23% in the long-term. While this is promising, it leaves a lot on the table.

EFT tapping for anger management – A transformational approach

Eft tapping takes a completely different approach to anger management. It is simple to use and can have an immediate calming effect, even without the help of a professional.

While most approaches try to get the angry person to relax and see things from a calmer point of view, eft tapping encourages the individual to express the anger in private while tapping on certain parts of the body and the torso.

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What if tapping does not work for my anger issues?

In 90% of the cases, a few rounds of tapping following the above instructions will easily calm any angry person down. If that doesn’t work for you, chances are that you think anger is serving a purpose.

A female client who often raised her voice at her boyfriend told me "If I don't yell at him when I catch him looking at other women, he will think it’s okay to do it'.

Another common misconception is that by staying angry, you are punishing the other person, even though the only one who suffers for sure is you.

If you think that you fall in any of the above categories, it will take professional help to turn some beliefs around, before you are ready to let the anger go.

From anger management to assertiveness

In real life, an angry response such as sharp words or an angry tone is the appropriate response to certain situations, such as saying no to a pushy salesperson or refusing a drink from a stranger at a bar.

In that case, it’s not called anger anymore, but assertiveness. It's powerful, respected, and highly sought after. The difference is that anger comes from rage, while assertiveness comes from strength.

If assertiveness is your goal, self-administered tapping is a good start, but it will also require some professional help. Step one is to release long-held anger from the past.

You will then be able to tap in and out of assertiveness as needed, because you are not driven by rage anymore. Feel free to book a free discovery call to find out more.